Wednesday, July 28, 2010


This morning I asked my wife if I could "think" about her. As some of you remember this is our fun code word for me to masturbate though not necessarily orgasm. She asked me if she should do anything. Intially I said no.

We wandered from the living room into the bedroom and master bathroom where I happily got down on my knees and started. Plenty aroused a few minutes later, I stopped, thanked her, and began to pick up laundry and we talked a bit about kids, etc.

Then I told her that I do need her input. I don't know when I should stop. I mean, I ask her if I can start but when to end is unclear. She asked me if I meant "orgasm." I told her that was her choice but not what I meant. I said I would really appreciate it if she would decide when I should stop.

Knowing that she prefers ideas I said, "Should it be a 30 second quickie? Or 5 minutes? To the point of precum? Or should it go for 1/2 an hour? Or until you leave the house for work?" (Of course other ideas came to mind later like thinking of her until she calls from the car).

I told her I thought it would be fun to not know and be suprised. Only time will tell if she adopts this part of the decision.

Monday, July 26, 2010

Unplanned Denial

As of last Wednesday it had been a while since I last orgasmed, and when I had, it was nothing great, quite boring really. I was getting a bit horny.

My oldest child is looking at colleges. With other kids and a wife who can't take time of without notice, finding time to go see them is very difficult. And then we noticed on Wednesday morning that if we drove that night we could visit some on Friday and use the weekend to return. Perfect.

The plan was to leave when my son got home from work but a late afternoon thunderstorm closed the pool he works at. Great, we could leave early and not have to drive until 1 am.

The downside is that I would get to see my wife before leaving. Now I'd have to wait until I returned from the trip.

I think that denial is a fun and important part of a wife led marriage. And when she's denying me and involved, great. But an unplanned denial can really test you!! LOL.

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Resetting and Getting Back in the Moood

As a quick refresher, we are in a wife led marriage for a couple of reasons but the primarily to help us have more sexuality/sexual fun in our marriage. It give us structure to deal with her low libido. And yes, I enjoy it.

I won't go into details but I was allowed an orgasm on sunday morning. I masturbated for her and she just sat there. In all fairness, I asked if I could. It was boring and not fun.

I actually regretted it. How often does a guy orgasm then wish he didn't?.....LOL

But what happened next is more important. I told her I wish I hadn't. I then told her that I'd like to have 5 minutes of "sexuality" on monday to get back into the mood of her being the boss. A "reset" if you will of getting back into a wife led marriage. I explained to her that after I orgasm, I lose interest. Sorta like a guy going to sleep soon after the act.

So as she lay in bed last night she asked me if I wanted the "5 minutes." In the past I would have said no and become angry at her asking. I hate the asking since in my head, a wife in a wife led marriage should "tell me."

But insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results so I said yes. She then asked me what I would like to do. I told her. Suffice to say that it I was naked and masturbating, telling her that I liked her authority and being submissive to her. I was on edge in no time and thankfully she noticed my "situation" and told me to stop before I orgasmed. Start to finish in less than 5 minutes.

And now I'm back in the mood but more importantly I am hoping she gets a better understanding of what will help us both.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Happened to you part 2

Lady Grey asked what, if any, suggestions I gave my wife. I didn't at the time. I was trying to keep it light hearted, no pressure and go and take care of the kids and dinner. It was an attempt to infuse some fun sexuality into our marriage that didn't require alot of time or effort. And for the most part, it worked just fine.

Here is what I emailed her this morning:

The other day you when I met you in the bedroom you and I struggled on the "what's next, how to end it" type of issue.

From a sexual standpoint (as opposed to an emotional connection): Before I get to that I think it's important for you to know what turns me on so maybe that will help you. Serving you turns me on. Me being naked and you dressed turns me on. You touching me turns me on. You having me touch you turns me on. You actively teasing me then denying my orgasm turns me on.

Since you asked for suggestions and with the above in mind you could have/I could have asked for:
--kiss the back or inside of my knee. that's enough, lets go cook dinner.
--stroke me and then let's go cook dinner.
--make precum. Stop. let's go cook dinner.
--unbutton my blouse. Stop. Lets go cook dinner.
--remove my skirt. Stop. Let's go cook dinner.
--Thank you. That's a fun way to be greeted. Let's go cook dinner.
--stay naked while I change. Let's go cook dinner

I'm sure there are tons of other things and we are going out tonight. I'll let you know what she says.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Has This Happened With You?

My wife has told me on numerous occasions that she is the boss. She has told me that we are and always will be in a wife led marriage. We both acknowledged it.

But she struggles with the sexual aspect. Of being "dominant."

Yesterday I texted her "Warning. Horny husband at home. wants to be naked and help remove your shoes." A few playful texts later that's where I was. Waiting in our bedroom, naked.

She came home and held out her foot and I gladly removed her heels.

Now what?

She told me she didn't know what to do next. I told her she didn't need to do anything. I got dressed and we made dinner together.

Later she asked me for suggestions on what she should have done differently.

Are their any other couples out there where the wife is asking her husband for "ideas?"

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Holding Back

So there I was. At an outdoor concert, sitting on the grass with my wife and a friend/co worker of hers. A very, very cute 24ish y.o. and she brought an equally cute girl friend.

Early in the day, my wife and I walked into town and picked up some food for the concert. Fruit, sandwiches, veggies and dip, salsa and chips. And of course, wine.

It took all my will power to act..oh no, here we go with the word police..."normal". What did I want to do, serve all 3 women. And I did to some extent. Pouring wine, serving out food on the plates, etc. But this seemed more the "good husband, nice guy, good host" type of thing.

I even draped my jacket over my wife's friend shoulers when the sun went down.

I suppose giving all three of them foot rubs would have been a bit too much!! LOL

Sunday, July 04, 2010

That was fun......

This afternoon we drove up to the outlets. We had to return headphones and my wife had a coupon for Coach. Yikes, the very high end purse/bag store.

It didn't take long to replace the headphones. Love Bose. They honored the purchase, no questions asked.

While at Coach, she went back and forth between two bags. As there was only one left of a certain type I had to hold onto it, and all the paper stuffed inside. Now, if this was some fantasy blog, I'd say how she got me all aroused while telling the hot sales girl that she's the boss.

More and more I've noticed that the blogs that survive for years eventually get away from the kinky sex stuff. Sure that's fun to write about and hope for but in the end a wife led marriage is about a guy trying to make his wife's life better, make her happy with the benefit that it gets him aroused.