Monday, August 27, 2007

A Perfect Week

My last post dealt with what happened on the first day after vacation and if I could not pressure her to continue with her dominance. Here is a quick recap from that day until today.

Today: Just got a call from her and was told to clean the bathroom.

Yesterday: Drops her keys while walking and makes/expects me to pick them up.
Arrives home and comments that she shouldn’t ever have to make up a pitcher of Crystal Light.

Monday: After going to bed, my wife “Paged” me on the house phone. Upon arrival at her bedside we discussed the kids’ schedules, etc. Then she just held out her hand. A clear indication that I was to apply lotion.

Sunday: After I spent the morning golfing she headed out for some personal time while I cleaned and prepared the house for dinner guests. Just before they arrived, she called me into the bathroom and had me begin a honey-do list.

Saturday: Out to dinner, her on the inside of the booth. Waiter asks about drinks, and she takes the wine list, tells the waiter she better choose and discusses options with him. When he brings the bottle out, he reaches past me and pours the taste for her. Later that evening, she grabs me and puts me inside her.

Friday: Places hand on the couch armrest pretending to hold a coffee cup and says, “Yes please.” Up I go to make her a cup.

Thursday: My son wants me to watch Space Balls (the very stupid Mel Brooks movie spoofing star wars.) I’d rather not. She takes me aside and tells me that I will watch the movie.

Wednesday: Both of us near sleep and she throws the blankets off me and states that I can turn off her light now. This requires that I get out of bed and walk around to her side. She then places a foot between my legs and tells me to sleep this way; naked and without blankets. Later she tells me that I can use the sheet. Upon waking she questions why I have a blanket on me when she said sheet.

Tuesday: Permitted to masturbate but not orgasm.

Monday: Can’t remember LOL

Sunday: See previous post.

Where did this come from? Two weeks ago we were on vacation and I got pretty angry at the lack of sexual play. I tossed and turned all night. The next morning we talked about it and I gave her a little kiss on the cheek and apologized. I told her that in a wife-led marriage I should have just accepted that she was tired and gone to sleep frustrated. She replied that she’d try to be a better leader. I sure hope she continues.

Monday, August 20, 2007

Post Vacation Day 1

I suppose I could post about how great my wife was during vacation. How she took charge on numerous occasions and said explicitly that I was not going to orgasm and I should just stay frustrated. A real watershed moment.

But vacations aren't real. Today was. She permitted me to masturbate this morning. It wasn't a big scene but it had been a week so I was pretty happy. Afterwards I busted my ass running around, finishing the laundry, dropping off her dry cleaning etc etc. I even managed some food shopping. I'm not tooting my own horn but us guys know how hard it is to stay motivated after orgasm.

Will she continue her more dominant role? Probably not. She is buried catching up with her work but I'm hoping that she play a little later in the week.

The real question is can I stay "chilly?"

Wednesday, August 08, 2007

A Very Slow Week

It's been a very slow week for anything wife-led. At first thought, many not in a FLR would think nothing of it. Big deal they'd say, she didn't order you around. No games this week.

What muggles don't understand is that it's not a game. It's a major aspect of how we interact which affects the overall dynamic of our relationship, not just physical intimacy. So when she doesn't show any inclination towards being the boss I feel like our marriage just hangs. Maybe they'd understand if a same size wrench was thrown into their marriage. (Of course, I've no idea what that would be for a vanilla couple.)

I've been working very hard on not pressuring her, not offerring specific services like foot rubs, massages, shoe polishing or anything else remotely submissive. Just the occasional "Is there anything I can do for you?" So I wait, like many of you, waiting for her to get back into the groove. Up and down. This is my marriage.

On a brighter note, we are vactioning next week. Though the kids will be with us, there is usually more time for her to be playful.