Monday, February 23, 2009

Just Chugging Along

Some people can make their posts thought provoking. Some make them controversial. I'm sure some make them up. Others detail their sex life. Some are new to the wife led scene and many struggle.

I suppose I fit into the last category. Just a guy, trying to find what works for him and his wife. Keeping the sex alive. Proud that they still communicate and work on their marriage.

Where do you fit? Feel free to create your own "category."

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Trying A Different Tack

Including the past few weekends and the next 4, one of us will be out of town for about 7 of 8 weekends. That is alot of time apart and my wife has acknowledged a lack of intercourse. (Frankly, we need to have a weekend date night and a few glasses of wine.) However, my wife has continued to be playful and we have had some fun wife led moments.

While driving to work today, she phoned me and let me know that while she was dressing, she had thought about initiating some type of fun, sexual situation but do to a late start, she decided there wasn't enough time. Of course I wish there had been more time but just the fact that she had thought about it made me very happy. She went on to tell me that she thinks of our sex life often.

I didn't know that. I'm glad that she does.

But how to get her thought put into some type of action?

I think she feels that the sexual "action" must be a somewhat lengthy "scene." Nothing could be farther from the truth.

So tonight I 'm going to bring her into the bedroom and tell her that I really wasn't aware of how often she thinks of our sex life. (And due to her lack of initiation, I think it's fair that I didn't know.)

Then I'm going to reinact this morning. I tell her to pretend that she has thought of our sex life but realized there isn't any time to do some thing about it.

I'll then show/tell her what she could have done. None of which would take more than 30 seconds and hopefully none of which she would find distasteful, embarassing or difficult to perform.

For example,
1. "(my name), "Can you come in here for a second." (my arrival) "I was thinking of you but time got away. Be good, ache a bit, maybe tomorrow."

2."Sorry, ran out of time." "My shoes need a polish."

3. "When was the last time you orgasmed?" "Sorry, out of time. Have a nice day."

4. Any of the above on my knees and or with my pants around my ankles.

5. "Pick out your favorite panties. Sorry out of time."

6. "Show me how you think of me in the shower." Stroke, stroke, "Sorry out of time."

7. "No time right now, page me each time you get hard today. No orgasm."

8. Lift the hem of her skirt to show the lace fringe of slip, "Like that?" ( Think about it today." "Maybe tomorrow."

Normally I would think this is "topping from the bottom", a husband trying to still be in charge of a wife led marriage. But I do believe she wants ideas to make her feel like a better, sexier wife and to further our already great communication and strengthen our marriage.

I'll let you all know how it goes.

Monday, February 16, 2009

Away Days

Damn, I hate when my life gets in the way of my wife led marriage. I just spent 5 days away with one of my kids at a tournament. We had a good time but being away stinks. And over Valentine's Day too.

I'm finally back at home and am looking forward to getting back into things. And it may take a few days for her to rev back up and I'll have to be patient.

After 2 1/2 years of an acknowledged wife led marriage, it's not like it is just going to end!! :)

Wednesday, February 04, 2009

The Devil Wears Coach

For some unknown reason, the movie "The Devil Wears Prada" has been on TV alot. It's a pretty funny movie and worth watching, at least as chick flicks go. Alot of the movie has the secretary running around serving the every need of her boss. The whole office goes into a daily frenzy when they get a call that she is in the elevator on the way up.

My wife calls me from her office before she leaves or when she is in her car to see if a kids needs a pick up on her way home or if we need milk. Mostly it's to inform me that she'll be home some. Sometimes she just says, "warning."

Normally, I've already started straightening up the house, making sure the bed is made and at least thinking about dinner. But if I've been lazy or one of the kids needed extra homework help, I have to move quickly because it's only a 15 minute commute. I don't want her coming home to a overy messy house and a family in disaray. She's worked hard and deserves better. And yes, of course, the is a wife led aspect to it and some sexual component.

Anyway, for those of you that have seen this movie, her call to me is like when the secretaries get the call that she is on the way up. Maybe it's only funny in my head. LOL

Tuesday, February 03, 2009

Follow UP

My last post ended with this question:

"At what point does the depth of her dominance stop? If standing 1/2 naked and washing her camisoles doesn't produce the same "effect" as it once did, should she do more? Do I need more?"

The depth of dominance stops when either person feels uncomfortable.
She need not do more.
No, I don't need more depth. I do need a higher frequency.