I don't nomally post about the deep meanings and reasons for a wife led marriage. Saturday night my wife asked why I blog and I said to let others know that a wife led marriage can and is one way to have a wonderful, "normal" marriage.
But that isn't why I want you to read this post.
This morning my wife was rushing out to work and she...gasp....wiped off her own boots:) They were a bit dusty from a summer on the shelf. A few minutes after she left, she called and asked me if I was offended by her wiping her own boots. She said that had I done it, probably on my knees, I'd get excited but she didn't have time to engage me. She was worried that I'd get frustrated if she walked out the door.
Here's the thing: She said that had I gotten all worked up and frustrated she would have felt like a terrible wife, leaving me there. By not "playing" with me, she would have felt bad.
I always say that I like to be hard and furstrated. She has a very difficult time with the frustration part.
So I told her to forget about it. We discussed looking at it from a different perspective. I told her that I get turned on. Period. That I get turned on when told to do things, when I clean her shoes, do her laundry, etc. etc. I conveyed to her that I feel closer to her through this type of interaction. Hell, it envigorates me to clean the house.
I understand she wants to feel like a good wife. It's one of the things I love about her. I think she now understands that getting her husband excited (with or without an orgasm) is a good thing.
I guess, as hard as I've tried, I never seen the "he's frustrated, I'm not being a good wife" aspect from her point of view.
For the men, talk to your wife and tell her that you get emotional and marital satisfaction from her when she is the "boss". Tell her that, in general, there isn't a connection between your orgasms and her being a good wife.
For the wives, many husbands want and need and truly enjoy a wife led marriage. Many want to be turned on and get turned on doing things for you. Forget the words tease, forget the words denial and frustration. I'm sure that you want to turn on your husband. If you are like my wife, you feel better about being a wife when you turn on your husband. So turn him on. Don't worry about his orgasm.