The Ring, Part II

We did go and get the "free" (hardly if you knew the price of her ring). And as luck would have it, they didn't have it in my size so I'll pick up the ordered one later this week.

The choosing was fairly one sided but in all honesty, I did have a a say and we more or less agreed on the same ring.

Now for the etching, on the inside.

We discussed many choice on the way down. Most with wife led themes, others more convential, like with our anniversary date. The funniest was what the jewler said he read one time about what a wife put on the inside of her husbands wedding band...."Put it back on." That's funny.

When it came time to ours, my looked at me and then told him to etch "Whatever" on the inside. It was fun and appropriate.

I'll let you all know if there is any type of "ceremony" when I put it on later this week.

A Ring for Me

Last week we celebrated our 20th anniversary and we bought her a ring. The jewler had a "special" going on and offered me a free titanium ring. I'm guessing they don't cost much.

Saturday is date night. She's told me that I am going to be the designated drive adn we will be getting that ring. Furthermore, we will engrave it. We, Ok, she, hasn't decided exactly what will be on the inside but here are some of her thoughts:

Wrapped
With Strings
Shes the Boss
and our favorite: Whatever.

Whatever has a fun meaning. Of course, Whatever, as in whatever she says. But I also have a coffee mug that says "Whatever" on it.

This could be fun.

Why Struggle?

From the title I'm guessing you expect a post about why I continue to try and implement a wife-led marriage.

Quite the opposite.

Before and after my last post, I decided to back off a bit. It seemed like I was pushing for something she didn't want. Of course she noticed and we talked about it. I told her I was going to dial it back and perhaps a wife led marriage isn't what will work for us.

Boy was I wrong.

Out on a date last night, we went to the mall. Of course, wife led or not, I carried the bags and held open doors. No big deal. But along the way, we stopped at Victoria's Secret to use a free panty coupon. Of course, I carried that bag too. It was damn small and was obviously only containing a panty.

At point during the night she said, " I don't know why you think we aren't in a wife led marriage. You know I'm the boss." Well, that pressed a button! She continued, "You think we aren't in a wife led marriage because I don't control your orgasms." "Well, I don't care if you wack off once in a while. I just want to control most of them. You shouldn't define our wife led marriage by something you read on the internet. It doesn't work that way."

And there you have it. No matter what us guys think, the wife defines what your wife led marriage will look like. And as long as she actively defines it.....well, that's just great.

During our mall trip, we purchased a ring for her to celebrate our 20 years of marriage. She told me that I could pick it up and present it to her at her job, regardless of how many people will be there.

What? It's not just about me?

Crap!

You mean it isn't about me getting my rocks off (or almost:)

Crap!

I again find myself doing alot of things for me, hoping she'll join in.

So I'm going to just chill out.

It will work or it won't.

Can't force these things.

Everything is actually OK. Still no phyical affection, sexaul or otherwise. Nothing I can do about that. I can only control my reaction.

So I will wait. I will stop trying to force it.

But here's the question: "How long would you wait for physical affection in your marriage?" (Yes, kids are involved). I will wait. Would you?