Permission....in Public

Setup:

After a wonderful thanksgiving dinner with very close friends we are scatter around the living room and kitchen. My wife and I are sitting at the table with another couple drinking coffee.

What Happened Next:

My friend and I are discussing golf. We play alot together and are hoping tha the weather gods will allow us to play this weekend. He glances at his wife and says, "I think I can get out for a quick 9 tomorrow." At the same time, she nods with a "we aren't doing anything anyway" sorta look.

I say, "Great. So can I." I then turn to my wife and she looks at me and says, "No, you can't. You didn't ask for permission first."

Stunned and turning multiple shades of red, I turn back to my friend and his wife and laughingly say, "Ah, damn, I always forget that (to ask)." We all chuckle and I throw in something like, "I'll work on her and let you know."

Later she says you know you can (play golf) but you have to ask first. So like At All Times, I too am on a high!

Our Sex Life

Honestly, I don't know what's normal. My wife's best friend will occasionally give her husband a blow job and as I posted she was in the bathroom and yelled, "I'm naked." Her husband came running to have sex. She told my wife that giving her husband some without being asked made her feel like a better wife, gained her huge "points" because she initiated it. It was one more thing off her checklist. Hey, if it works for them.

We don't have alot of intercourse, about once per month. It is preplanned. We have a date night, have quite a bit of wine then fuck. We don't kiss except the hello, goodbye and goodnight. No oral sex, no breast fondling. Foreplay generally revolves around our "wife-ledness". My stroking myself.

The majority of our sex life is me mastrubating for her. I'm trying to get her to arouse me, tease me more, have me serve her more. She needs to understand that if we don't kiss, touch or screw then the service and my arousal IS OUR SEX LIFE. A healthy marriage needs its own sex life.

My wife is brilliant and literally at the very top of her field, beautiful, a spectacular mom and a great wife, even with her sexual struggles. I wonder if I've explained this well enough, done my part.

This morning she was going to leave early for work. I told her that if she gave me a few minutes notice, I'd warm up her car. No such luck. I doubt that she is thinking that it is sexually important to me to warm up her car. I was a bit annoyed.....at myself. What I should have said is, "Honey, I'd really like to serve you by warming up your car." And then, just warm up her car, not meet her in the garage with my pants down around my ankles and sporting a huge hard-on.

Well that's all for now.

Saturday

Saturday night was fun. I got laid.

But that isn't the funny part. My wife was telling me about her girlfriend, a very close friend of mine also. To make her husband happy, she likes to suprise him. So the other morning she yells out of the bathroom, "Honey, I'm naked." He goes running in there and screws her. She feels like a good wife and of course, he feels real good.

It's just that I have this mental picture of a cartoon. An unseen wife yelling from the bathroom, "Honey, I'm naked." Then a series drawings of some guy running all the while throwing off his clothes with a rising erection. Think about it, damn right you'd go running too.

And who is in control of that marriage??? LOL

Wife Led Marriages

Yea, yea, I know this blog is about my wife led marriage. But I can't help it, I'm very excited that Obama won. He is a breath of fresh air and lets face it, Michelle runs that marriage.

In my life, not much is going on. Just a few little things. Yesterday she mentioned, my wife, not Michelle, that her gas tank was running low. But with driving my kids to various events, while my wife worked out...oh wait, that was wife led too.....and then watching the election, I forgot.

This morning she asked me about it. I told her I forgot but could run out now. She seemed to ponder this, hesitating, trying to balance what I want, what's right and what she feels comfortable with and then said yes, she'd like her tank filled and it would warm up the car too.

I'm very glad that she said yes. I think I'll ask her about it later.

Go Obama.