Don't Ask

"Do you want to cum?" I hate this question. It makes me wonder if she wants me to or not or is she doing it for me. etc etc. Last night she asked again. I told her to not ask, just tell. She responded that she doesn't like to feel bitchy. We discussed this issue and I reassured her that I don't think of it as bitchy, just "normal" in that a marriage works best if the wife controls her husbands orgasms. And besides, it's FUN and PLAYFUL.

While we were watching TV this morning she said, "Release." (Our code word for me to masturbate to orgasm). Who am I to argue!! LOL

I think, hope, that this is a turning point. That she finally is taking a more active role in direct orgasm management.

Trying Again

As I've posted, things haven't been going well. The wife led was dead and our sex life was pretty much non-existant. I just kinda gave up for while, chilling out and tried to focus on what is right and good in my life. And compared to most, I'm a damn lucky guy.

Last night my wife said she wanted to try again and start up a wife-led marriage. We didn't discuss it too much but I did make her say to me in no uncertain terms that this is what she wants. Even to the point of having her admit to me that she is doing it for herself, not just becuase she thinks its something that I want. If true, this is huge. Time will tell.

So far today, nothing wife led. I'll just take it easy and see what happens. The way I figure it, if she gets into the wife led role more then great. If I don't get my hopes up too much and she doesn't then I haven't lost anything either.

Update

Not much going on. My wife's lack of interest in sex has led to a rather prolonged dry spell of seaulity in our marriage. Time will tell.