Thursday, May 01, 2008


Not much going on. My wife's lack of interest in sex has led to a rather prolonged dry spell of seaulity in our marriage. Time will tell.


At 11:30 AM, Blogger s said...

So, are you now punting on the idea of a wife-led marriage as a way of rekindling the spark, so to speak? Or do you yet derive personal satisfaction from serving her, irrespective of her lack of interest in sex?

I know others have counseled, but I do recommend discussing the intimacy issues with a marriage counselor or sex therapist.

I wish you happy resolution.

At 3:19 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I guess that lack of sex may not be such a big issue if your wife was actively taking charge and dominating you in other ways. Is she still expressing any desire to be in control.

At 7:28 AM, Blogger whatevershesays said...

S: First, Thank you. I'm still open to a wlm rekindling the spark. But as my wife has told me, it's tough to think in sexual "terms" if one's libido is almost non existent. I do recieve some satisfaction from just serving her, as any husband would. But the lack of sexualality/control/serving her isn't there.

At all times: The "taking charge" isn't happening. Wouldn't there be some expectation of at least a minor "sexual" senario? I doubt dominance without sex would work.

At 11:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just thought that even if your wife didn't want sex, then what would be stopping her taking charge more and teasing you, there are ways that you can still get your realease that dont have to involve making love. Maybe there are things that go much deeper than just a loss of libido.

I hope that things work out for you both.


At 3:57 AM, Blogger fd said...

Sorry to hear about the lack of interest in sex by Her. Do you act romantically towards Her? Do you buy Her flowers for no special reason? Do you plan romantic dinners, picnics together? How about weekend getaways to a nearby bed and breakfast? When in bed do you cuddle with Her, kiss Her gently and tell Her how important She is to you? my Wife is Dominant but still likes romance in Her life and i feel that helps keep up Her interest in sex. If you do, then Her lack of interest may be physical or some hormone change that could be easily remedied. Just some thoughts. i feel your pain!

At 7:57 AM, Blogger whatevershesays said...

Fd: Thanks. And yes, I do or have done all those things. Still no luck. And it isn't just about sex. She simply doesn't need to be touched nor does she need to or want to touch me, in both sexual and non sexual ways. And I don't think it is just me. She doesn't masturbate or desire others.

She has had her hormones check, testosterone, etc and still no luck.


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