Monday, March 31, 2008

Update

Not much to say really. My wife's lack of sexual desire has put a cramp on any and all sexual activity. It was my hope that a wife led marriage would allow her to "go at her own pace." But I understand that if one doesn't have any sexual urges that she probably doesn't feel like being sexually playful.

But let's face it, it is still a wife led marriage if for no other reason that I want sex and she controls it:)

She has a real fear that I'm going to divorce her because of her lack of sexual desire. I must say that really pisses me off. We've been having issues with her lack of desire for 14 years (since our first child was born) and I'm still here. Sure I get frustrated, who wouldn't. But I continue to love her and put forth effort into making our marriage not only work but get better.

Anyway, that's all for now. I get to be her trophy husband this weekend. She is hosting a big business dinner and my attendance is required.

Thursday, March 13, 2008

Follow-Up

Mixed. Some good but still not alot of affection. She did "touch" me last night but overall on a scale of 1-10 I'd give it a 5. She's gone for the weekend so we will see what happens next week.

But I have found some peace with the situation. This too goes up and down with my moods :) This marriage stuff takes effort.

A funny thing happened yesterday. A guy friend of mine was over and we were talking about women/man differences and marriage. He said that every happy, working marriage he has seen always has the women in charge. No shit!