Helpmate

Hey Helpmate: I can't get into your blog anymore. Invitation only. May I? Send me an email at whatevershesays@excite.com.

Thanks!

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I was just going to answer a question posted in my comments section but thought it might make and interesting post.

Marriagechili:
Yes, she dominates everything related to sex. However, she isn't into anything "femdom." You know, spanking, leather etc. She determines when, where and of course if we have sex. I don't orgasm, including masturbation, without her permission. She could have me "service" her orally or otherwise if she wants. Unfortunately, her lack of sexual desire doesn't lead to such situations. I do most of the domestic chores, serve her coffee each morning, etc. Two nighs ago, I put on a thong (man's), masturbated into it then she went to sleep while I drove her car to the gas station, filled it up, ran it through a car wash and vaccumed it out. All while quite....sticky:) She also requred that I sleep in it.

I believe that sexual domination comes in many forms. Basically, if she arouses you and controls the situation then it's sexual domination. She once teased me with her foot under a restaurant table. We left while I was still aroused. It was quite obvious due to the fact that I was only wearing thin summer weight pants. One woman looked up at just the right/wrong moment and got a complete eyeful. The shocked look on her face was priceless. LOL

She's the boss!

Still Going

Simply stated: My marriage is a wife-led marriage. As always, ups and downs. What we struggle with, in general, is my wife's lack sexual desire. Though I think a wife-led marriage helps this situation as she gets to dictate anything sexual, it is not a fix-all.

But we are committed to our marriage, each other and for the forseeable future, the concept of a wife led marriage and all that it intails.

I hope that those reading this blog find happiness and a dominant wife!

I'll write again soon when something important happens. Either way, mid-June is our anniversary of our wife led marriage (it's when I gave her the Aroundherfinger book.) We've talked about different ways of celebrating this occassion but haven't come to a conclusion. I'll let you all know.