God Told Me
OK,not really.
There are some women (and their husbands) that say the Bible tells them that the wives should be subservient to the husbands.
What frustrates the hell out of me is that if we were in a "husband led marriage" and my wife told her girlfriends that it was this way because of the Bible, no one would question her. It wouldn't be embarassing.
But if we men and their wives come out of the closet and say that our marriage is centered around/focused on the needs, wants and happiness of the wife first (not exclusively)....well, that's a whole other story.
I will concede that part of it is my baggage, but not all of it. Is it the kinky sex factor. The image of a leather clad dom?
I'm not sure but there is a difference.
Perhaps we are just to scared to question someone when they bring faith into the equation.
posted by whatevershesays @ 4:31 PM
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5 Comments:
Right after St. Paul tells wives to be obedient to their husbands, he tells slaves to be obedient to their masters. IMHO, he was saying there is no need for civil revolt, but it is okay to follow the norms of where you live. Later he says, we are all one, or equal. Anyway, a husband and wife are free to do as they like with each other. It is their god given right. Just MHO.
I'm sitting here trying to imagine having that conversation with my girlfriends...What a laugh they would all have!!! In this day and age, I think most people view marriage as an equal partnership. Both work and help with the kids/household upkeep (etc) My "vanilla" girlfriends" pretty much have a 50/50 agreement. (Well, as far as I know!)
Long gone are the 50's housewives days (Thank God). I think it would cause a shock to my girlfriends if I told them about our FLR, but I also think it would cause the same shock if I told them that I serve my husband because God says so! The only difference would be I think they would go home after our dinner and end up on Amazon.com to buy "Around Her Finger"!!
Mistress
I used to attend a church in which male headship was emphasized. Most gave lip service to it, but in reality I think most of the marriages were closer to a 50/50 type arrangement - which a relationship is is more likely to naturally evolve to in modern Western culture.
Some of what I am about to say is opinion, other is based on rational observation from my experience.
Sometimes leadership is thrust upon a person. Not all MLRs or FLRs are grabbed.
A female is no more suited for leadership than a male based on gender, regardless of wishful thinking or assumed evolution.
A so-called 50-50 relationship is where nobody is in charge. I don't belive that they really exist, but if the participants insist on it, their relationship will fail.
I believe in making strategy, making decisions, and using our best attributes to support our relationships. Neither party should be prevented from that unless one is mentally incompetent. However, at some point someone must make a decision.
While in in law enforcement I dealt with dysfunctional families where the man was barely more than a moron and the woman was slightly smarter but powerless. This is not what I advocate. What I advocate is allowing the natural leader to lead with input from his or her partner.
The Bible has gone through so many revisions and people have been killed for translating it so many times that it behooves me that people still believe it is the truth.
I find it interesting that Christians pick and choose which parts they feel like following or believing in. The anti-abortionists should be picketing in front of Red Lobster or Long John Silvers because according to the same book, eating shellfish is an abomination too.
The bible is a good read, but it's fiction.
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