Dr. Laura Part II
It seems from the blog and outside convesations that Dr. Laura was.....gasp.....right. That a woman doesn't need to be horny to "make love to" her husband.
I agree too. We all do things for the people we love that we don't want to do.
Here's a follow up question:
Guys could you truly enjoy the sexual relationship with your wife if she only did it for you and didn't get any sexual enjoyment herself? Not just once in while but almost all the time?
posted by whatevershesays @ 10:19 PM
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That's a very difficult question.
I suspect that there has been times in the past when Jane, and I suspect most women do at sometime or other, has made love and only really done it to satisfy me, or their husbands. I don't think that this is uncommon.
If, however, this was all the time, then I would seriously doubt if I could enjoy it myself. If you are talking about your own wife, then I do have great sympathy for you.
If so, that is why I have questioned in the past why she cant not find it in herself to adopt a more Wife Led approach to your relationship and use it in different ways to help satisfy your need for some sexual arousal, without the need for actual sexual intercourse.
At first thought, I had to agree with AAT. It's one thing to go out of your way so to speak every once in a while.
This became an easy question to answer when I tried to put myself in that persons shoes.
To think that a spouse would not be enjoying themselves every single time for the most part would be a crushing blow. I as a woman and a BI woman I would not enjoy it if my spouse or significant other didn't get any enjoyment for themselves or myself for that matter.
Sex is usually give and take and when only one side is truly participating it does not make me want to even try nor is it stimulating.
Fantastic topic!!!!
If by "make love to," you mean "to lavish sexual attention upon," then yes, a woman certainly doesn't need to be horny. Kissing, teasing, and groping can happen anytime, anywhere. Well... within reason.
I don't think that's what the good doctor meant, by "making love," but it's fine for my purposes, I guess. My belief is that everyone should have their needs met. Life's not a utopia, I know. But, I can't believe that either party could ever be truly happy in a one-sided sexual relationship.
In the past I would not even care, but my wife told me once that she had never had an orgasm until after we had been married for a couple years and I felt some measure of satisfaction in learning that I had learned to please my woman. I was not her first lover and she told me that she thought she enjoyed, but when she had her first orgasm she discovered that she was only enjoying half of the experience.
Now a days, since I have recognized my submissiveness, I don't think I could live without pleasing my wife first.
I get a great deal of pleasure from giving pleasure.... if sex did nothing or was not desired by her what would the point be? It would be much easier to fantasize and masturbate for my own satisfaction.
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