I Promise......

As some of you know, I present coffee to my wife in our little morning ritual. I get down on one knee and say, (and it varies each day) "With this coffee I promise to (insert: obey, love, change the sheets on the bed,...etc.).

Today was no different.

"With this coffee I promise to obey."

She just stared at me and didn't accept the coffee. Hmmm, thinking she wasn't in a playful or kinky mood I tried again.

"With this coffee, I promise to love and obey."

Hey, women like the love stuff.

She just stared. It's also what she does every time we have a drink together. I have to toast her. But I have to guess what she is thinking. If I'm wrong (often) she just stares at me and waits until I guess correctly.

"Um, I don't understand." I said.

She replied, "A promise is for the future. You should say just say obey."

"With this coffee, I obey."

"That's better."

Happily aroused I went and poured my own coffee.

Later she asked me how I was. Great, I replied. She is feeling disconnected from me. Her job is quite demanding and as the sole bread winner and with 3 teenagers, she can't just quit and move. And due to some unforseen activities of said teenagers, I've been gone a few nights this week. I did ask her if her feelings of disconnect were due any lack of wife led attention on my part. I have been dialing it down a bit lately, tired of pushing myself on her. Fortunately, this isn't the issue. Whew!! :)

I'm pretty sure that many readers like the first part of this post. And had I not written about her feelings of disconnection, it would have seemed like the perfect wife led moment.

But I don't think real wife led marriages are like that. They aren't perfect. They are messy. Real life gets in the way and I thought it important to show both sides.

Have a great weekend and don't forget to serve your wife/gf (both :) breakfast in bed or for the women, expect and demand it. Enjoy.