Riding a High
Things have been going very well lately despite that she has been overworked and stressed. She had me bring myself to the very, very edge and then stop. A first for us!
After having sex saturday night she told me to sleep on the floor. I was so very tired, my shoulder hurt and I was a bit drunk, I said no and got into bed. She told me that if I slept in the bed, I would be denied until our anniversary in 2 weeks. Promises, promises...LOL
And there are the very important little things outside the bedroom that keep it going. Such as her just placing some cd's and her ipod next to me. A clear indication that she wanted them loaded and synced. One of our kids asking if I could drive them someplace and a quick glance from her and a very subtle nod. And finally this morning while she drove to work we were talking about household stuff and she told me to throw out 2 frying pans because she had bought 2 for Father's Day. My only regret is that I didn't get to open them infront of our friends who will be here for a barbeque LOL.
It will be interesting to see if she makes me wait 2 weeks until my next orgasm. I think that would be the longest time period. Regardless, I am enjoying this period of more intense "wife-ledness".
posted by whatevershesays @ 7:11 AM
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3 Comments:
You should have slept on the floor.
My husband and I have agreed 3 years ago that we would have a WLR and that I would now control his orgasms. For the first year we agreed that he would wear a chastity device 24/7, the CB 3000. I only let him out once a week for cleaning and a good teasing session, then after he used an ice pack to bring his penis down, back on it went. He was only allowed an orgasm every 4 weeks, and if he displeased me in any way, I added more weeks. I don't spank him, I keep him very horny as punishment. But after one year I decided that the chastity device is an artificial control, he should refrain from masturbation because of his devotion to me. He swore to me he would never masturbate, and he hasn't, any wife can tell when her husband has cum. So he is still on the minimum 1 month schedule, although I love it when he is so very horny that I usually add 2 or 3 weeks, evenn if he has been very good. And if his housecleaning wasn't perfect, or if he displeased me in any way, at least 2 weeks are added. He cums less than 10 times a year, this year he will probably cum 8 times if he continues to behave well, which he has. But I do tease him every day, He must wear panties for example. Not mine, but a size 7, Vanity Fair Body Caress or Jockey Tactel Hip Brief. He has over 22 pairs in white, black, brown and beige. Men do look silly in little bikinis and frilly pink panties, thereforre I buy those others just for him. He has a difficult time holding back as I gently stroke my fingers over the smooth, silky panty covering his horny manhood. If he cums, it 6 months of punishment wait time, so he is very careful. I do let him enter me once in a while if he has been very good, but only for 4 to 8 strokes, then he must pull out without any "accidents". This is all mutual, we love each other very much and we have a closeness because of this that couldn't possibly be any better. We are both in our 50's, in great shape, and he desires me every day. Sorry, I tell him, maybe in a month!!!!
I agree with 4:17. The best way to harness the power of sex in your marriage is to enjoy sex, oral or otherwise, as often as you want, but to regulate your husband's orgasms in the process. You must strictly forbid him to masturbate and even deny your husband orgasm during sex, allowing it only when he has earned it either by good behavior or the length of time since his last orgasm.
Masturbating and even orgasm during sex usually translates into the husband ignoring his wife or getting lazy for at least a couple days. Any married woman has seen this, even if she has not overtly acknowledged it. The longer gratification of male sexual release is deferred the more central it becomes as a goal to be accomplished. His attention becomes yours in ways you’ve never known.
It’s important to know that he would not be doing this if he did not love and trust you, he would not be relinquishing this type of control without a deep, burning desire to worship the goddess you.
An important key is that it must be clear that you are deliberately denying him the short term relief of an orgasm. Even if the real reason is that you are too tired or some other common circumstance, tell him he may not have an orgasm for some other reason such as "I don't think you've earned one yet" or "the time has not yet come" or even the arbitrary "I don't feel like letting you have one tonight." Using these words, or even resorting to dry humor, lets him know that you are in control of this, and not mere circumstance.
Another technique is to talk to him while stroking on his penis. He will open up, and agree to just about anything that would otherwise be uncomfortable to him – family finances, your next vacation, raising the kids, losing weight, exercising, catching up on chores, overcoming bad habits, you name it. Importantly, you do not have to bring him to orgasm during these heart to hearts. Also, while his orgasms are being rationed in this way, there is no reason to suffer yourself. You should enjoy all of the orgasms, back and foot rubs your heart desires. Even allowing him to penetrate you without orgasm is fine if you just want a good fucking. If he can’t last long enough to bring you to orgasm without ejaculating prematurely, tell him that he’ll have to use a vibrator until he gets better control over his penis. Then let him in for the occasional 4 or 8 strokes mentioned by 4:17 if he’s done something really good before it’s his time to come. The rule in our house is that hubby is forced to go no less than 2 weeks without an orgasm, with the longest period of denial having been 2 months. We have thought about a chastity device, but for now have been using the honor system as well. For myself, I insist him servicing me to orgasm in some way or another at least twice a week.
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