Is it "new" or "Newly Acknowledged?"

Lady Julia's blog is fantastic. http://ladyjulia.net/myblog/relationships/1642-femdom-or-female-led-relationships-imagine/#comment-1510

Her recent post about imagining yourself as a vanilla wife approached by your husband who asks you to enter into a wife led marriage and with kinky stuff to boot is wonderful food for thought. And as usual, I agree with her.

But I often wonder how many marriages are alread wife-led? On Friday we were heading to a semiformal event and my wife was bringing one of those totally useless but fancy minipurses. And prior to leaving she found the following note:

"Dearest,"
I'm glad you decided to make we wait and keep me aroused and frustrated for the next week. I'm glad that I am your beck-and-call-boy."

It was dated in 2003. And later this month we are celebrating our three year anniversary of being in a wife led marriage. Our beginning is when it was formally acknowledged the day I gave her the wonderful book, "Around Her Finger."

What I am getting is that I was definately in a wife led marriage for at least 3 years prior to our defining it.

I think that if more men helped their wives to acknowledge what has usually been happening for some time anyway, it might smooth the road so to speak.