Vacation, Then Talk

Something very interesting happened over the past two weeks.

I went away with my kids to a relative's house for a week. Great fun. My wife joined me a week later and then the two of us and the kids went to NYC and the beach for a week. All told, we were not in a wife-led marriage for those two weeks. Furthermore, I was pretty much in control due knowing where to drive, knowing more people, etc. etc.

At one point she said to me, "Wow, with you doing all the vacation planning and driving, I really miss being in control."

And for both of us, the "wife-led" aspect of our marriage has provided us with a framework in which to interact. Maybe expectations is a better word. Whatever it is, we didn't have it on vacation and we were out of sync.

Once back at home, she very, very quickly fell back into being more dominant. I plan on speaking with her to determine just how much she missed our wife-ledness (new word) and hopefully having her realize just how much apart of us it (the wife-led aspect of our marriage) has become.