Sunday, July 01, 2007

Some time off....I think

My wife has a very low sex drive. It has always been my hope that by giving her control, she'd feel less pressure to have intercourse, but still be able to tease me etc thereby providing our marriage with some type of sexuality.

I mentioned our "anniversary" a few times but nothing happened nor had anything sexual happened before or after for quite some time.

I"m going to chill out for a while and sit back and see what will happen. Sort of give in to the moment.

I'll try and keep everyone up to date.

7 Comments:

At 1:56 PM, Anonymous Rich said...

A possibly completely offbase comment.

My own libido went down long ago for several years. Until I was hospitalized and during routine tests they discovered my thyroid was low and that I needed to take a supplemental does. My sex drive surged back.

At the time my doctor told me this was more common among women than men.

 
At 6:21 PM, Blogger helpmate hubby said...

i have been right where you are at my fellow submale friend.

2 suggestions:
1.For my Wife something that helped open Her up sexually and like it more was the use of toys. Vibrators hit the spots a lot better than i could and with the use of those Her desires really began to grow.

2. You might express to your Wife how you feel about the lack of an exciting sex life and see if she would be intrested in bringing someone else. My Wife and i had a discussion like that when i was in your boat and she confided to me that she was really attracted to Women and i encourged her to follow those interests if that was what she wanted as my greatest happiness was to see her happy. I know that and the whole cuckolding thing is something you are likely against, but perhaps an expressed willing to allow such would show your Wife how much you love her and perhaps rev up her sexual batteries.

Best wishhes to you.

 
At 6:21 PM, Blogger helpmate hubby said...

i have been right where you are at my fellow submale friend.

2 suggestions:
1.For my Wife something that helped open Her up sexually and like it more was the use of toys. Vibrators hit the spots a lot better than i could and with the use of those Her desires really began to grow.

2. You might express to your Wife how you feel about the lack of an exciting sex life and see if she would be intrested in bringing someone else. My Wife and i had a discussion like that when i was in your boat and she confided to me that she was really attracted to Women and i encourged her to follow those interests if that was what she wanted as my greatest happiness was to see her happy. I know that and the whole cuckolding thing is something you are likely against, but perhaps an expressed willing to allow such would show your Wife how much you love her and perhaps rev up her sexual batteries.

Best wishhes to you.

 
At 6:21 PM, Blogger helpmate hubby said...

i have been right where you are at my fellow submale friend.

2 suggestions:
1.For my Wife something that helped open Her up sexually and like it more was the use of toys. Vibrators hit the spots a lot better than i could and with the use of those Her desires really began to grow.

2. You might express to your Wife how you feel about the lack of an exciting sex life and see if she would be intrested in bringing someone else. My Wife and i had a discussion like that when i was in your boat and she confided to me that she was really attracted to Women and i encourged her to follow those interests if that was what she wanted as my greatest happiness was to see her happy. I know that and the whole cuckolding thing is something you are likely against, but perhaps an expressed willing to allow such would show your Wife how much you love her and perhaps rev up her sexual batteries.

Best wishhes to you.

 
At 8:20 PM, Blogger whatevershesays said...

HH:
I appreciate your suggestions. The problem is that if she isn't feeling sexual then toys and/or other people aren't going to help.

She has repeatedly stated that she isn't interested in anyone else. Not even, "Nice ass on that guy" etc.

I'll keep working on it but by letting it all go and she what she does with it. I hope that sooner or later, she'll notice and the sexual aspect of marriage can start back up.

I'm just not going to divorce her for lack of sex.

 
At 6:39 AM, Blogger faninho said...

Uh... I know this so well. I thought I could do nothing about it. Sometimes I tried to be the kind of boy I was, when we met the first time. That created a cosy atmosphere and more- from time to time; it's courtship and she likes it.

My situation was and is similar to your's -with precious exceptions- it helps to make her feel that it is all about her.

My pleasure is to give her pleasure.
To think like that is so much more than "having nothing".

Success is never guaranteed- in no way. I have to accept those rules. That's the way it is. It is the easiest way to accept this- than exceptions are more presumable.

I also wish you all the best to you.

 
At 5:19 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, why not ask her if she would allow you to use the services of a prostitute?

 

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