Public or Private?

How public is your relationship? For us, there are subtle clues if one was to look closely. That was until Saturday. We had taken a break from yard work to make lunch for the kids when an acquaintance stopped by unannounced. My wife was at the sink and our guest and I were sitting at the table when she casually asked what we were doing for the rest of the day. My wife replied that we had a sitter coming over and we might catch a movie. When asked which movie, my wife said quite frankly, “Whatever I choose.” There was a pause (may have been my heart stoppingJ) and our friend laughed and the conversation went elsewhere.

Later my wife asked what I thought of her comment and how flip she could be with someone we don’t normally see. This led to a conversation about what she would say to close friends that will eventually notice a “To do” list posted in our bedroom. While there is nothing sexual on it, it’s clear whose handwriting it is. Ironing, daily back rubs and a note to keep an eye on the list for changes makes it pretty obvious that the list is by her for me. We will see what happens.

So how many people, if any, know about your lifestyle?