Monday, August 14, 2006

Public or Private?

How public is your relationship? For us, there are subtle clues if one was to look closely. That was until Saturday. We had taken a break from yard work to make lunch for the kids when an acquaintance stopped by unannounced. My wife was at the sink and our guest and I were sitting at the table when she casually asked what we were doing for the rest of the day. My wife replied that we had a sitter coming over and we might catch a movie. When asked which movie, my wife said quite frankly, “Whatever I choose.” There was a pause (may have been my heart stoppingJ) and our friend laughed and the conversation went elsewhere.

Later my wife asked what I thought of her comment and how flip she could be with someone we don’t normally see. This led to a conversation about what she would say to close friends that will eventually notice a “To do” list posted in our bedroom. While there is nothing sexual on it, it’s clear whose handwriting it is. Ironing, daily back rubs and a note to keep an eye on the list for changes makes it pretty obvious that the list is by her for me. We will see what happens.

So how many people, if any, know about your lifestyle?


At 8:12 PM, Blogger helpmate hubby said...

My Wife has gotten pretty open about her dominance over me with our inner circle of friends, politely giving me orders in front over her girlfriends, and dometimes making playful comments such as "he knows who weras the pants" and similar statments just like that. Our friends know who the "boss" is i think, just not the degree to which she controls.

At 8:41 PM, Blogger Queen'sKnight1 said...

my Wife's Sister knows.

At 2:25 AM, Blogger metman said...

We are a mature couple in our 50's. Have been into this lifestyle for 38 yrs of marriage. Some of our neighbors know that SHE is the DISCIPLINARIAN in the family and I am the sub/servant. Female neighbors have seen me giving my wife/mistress a pedicure on our deck. They have also seen me ironing her clothes or seen me scrubbing the kitchen floor. Of course none of this is done in the nude. Although sometimes I wish SHE would let me be more sub in other presence.

At 9:26 PM, Blogger Mistress Laura's boy said...

Good question. I think if anyone were observant, they would know in an instant who the boss is in my relationship.

I do call my wife/Mistress "Ma'am", "my Lady" or "my Queen" in front of others and she has gotten quite comfortable with simply ordering me to do things (like fetch drinks or clean up) and I always obey without hesitation.

Also, there are more subtle clues, when we eat in restaurants, I always wait till she starts eating, and every once in a while, she will simply reach over and grab a bite off my plate. It goes without saying that it all belongs to Her.

At 4:00 AM, Blogger Jwife said...

We are somewhat new to this type of relationship and many of our friends would be stunned to know that my wife and I have chosen to swap roles within our relationship. I don't believe my wife has told more than one of her closest friends about us. In public, we probably come across as a traditional married couple although it's starting to get difficult for us to pretend. Mary Ellen seems to be amused at watching me try to still maintain my masculinity with freinds or in public while knowing that her real husband thrives on emasculation. However,in recent week she's started to exhibit more of her new found dominance over me in public. She says she just can't help herself. Right now it's just little things. Yesterday we had some friends over. She called me in the kitchen and with our guests in the adjoining room she began finger fucking my mouth all the while instructing me to leave my mouth half parted and stare back at her and try to imagine "what I'm going to do to you later". Needless to say, when we returned to our guests, I had a hard time returning to my former self!

At 6:55 AM, Blogger littlemisterman said...

my wife and i were at the health club a while back, she playfully gave me a quick smack on the rear-end. i was in such a position on one of the machines that that served to make my ass all that more inviting. a woman noticed my wifes little show i guess because after that little event she seemed to warm up to the both of us. women i think in general enjoy seeing a wifes display of dominance over her male even if a wife led marriage is not their cup of tea.

At 8:39 PM, Blogger subbiehubbie said...

My wife doesn't openly tell people, She is just Dominant all the time. She gives me orders whenever She feels like it, and also will say, "You will be punished for that," in front of anyone. She doesn't care if they take it as a joke or seriously. She also has marched me downstairs while we were having a party and paddled me quite hard; I'm pretty sure the guests upstairs could hear it, or see my red face upon our return. But no one said anything.

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